Does Your Marriage Measure Up?

Measuring Marriage by God’s Word

It is my hope that you are being encouraged to think about, and meditate on, the passages of scripture that God uses to speak directly about marriage and family. It has been my observation and experience that often we read through a passage in the Bible and neglect to pause to reflect on how it should impact our thinking and conduct.

As you read the following passages I pray that you will take time to reflect on your marriage and your relationship with your spouse. Consider first how Jesus has taught us to submit to God, by His loving sacrifice for our redemption. (Read 1 Peter 2: 21 – 25)

A Word to Wives
I Peter 3: 1 – 7 Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. Do not let your adornment be merely outward–arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel– rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.
A Word to Husbands
Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

Consider how your family sees you and how they would describe your conduct in the home.

    As a wife, would your children and your spouse see you in the description here in Peter’s epistle? Do they see a woman who supports and encourages her husband and children, serving gladly from the heart, with a gentle and quiet spirit? Is your family being drawn into a relationship with our Heavenly Father, by observing the purity of your conduct, motivated by loving reverence of your heart for God?

    As a husband, how does your family perceive you? Are you dwelling in the home, participating, interested and actively leading, listening and seeking to understand your wife (and children)? Are you their protector, full of the loving grace of Jesus, and a man of prayer and intercession for your family?

Asking ourselves these kind of questions based on the biblical mandates and calling on our lives is definitely humbling and challenging! This is perhaps why Peter in his second letter at the beginning reminded us, “To those who have obtained like precious faith with us by the righteousness of our God and Savior Jesus Christ: Grace and peace be multiplied to you in the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord, as His divine power has given to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him who called us by glory and virtue, by which have been given to us exceedingly great and precious promises, that through these you may be partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust.

In his letters Peter acknowledges the struggle, the pain, and the need to be reminded of our faith in a Savior that loves us, heals us, understands us, empowers and enables us. He also clearly admonishes us and encourages us to be who God has called us to be. May we never cease to look at ourselves and commit ourselves to obedience in honoring Jesus, honoring one another, and submitting to one another in the love of our Lord.

Finally remembering this that “…we are His (God’s) workmanship created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.” Ephesians 2:10

May Your Married Life be a Good Work in the Love of Jesus

Pastor Vince

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